Still safe to drive? How to know and who should have that conversation.
Determining if someone is still safe to drive can be a sensitive but crucial issue, especially for aging drivers or those with health conditions that impact driving ability. Here’s how to approach this delicate subject and recognize the signs that someone may no longer be safe behind the wheel.
Signs Someone Might Not Be Safe to Drive
Recognizing these early signs is essential to ensuring both the driver’s and others’ safety on the road:
- Frequent Close Calls or Minor Accidents: If a driver is often involved in small collisions, bumps, or near-misses, this could indicate declining reaction times or spatial awareness.
- Difficulty Navigating Familiar Routes: Getting lost or confused while driving in familiar areas could suggest issues with memory or cognitive function.
- Slow Reaction Times: Hesitating at junctions or failing to respond promptly to traffic signals and unexpected situations can increase the risk of accidents.
- Increased Anxiety or Stress While Driving: A noticeable rise in anxiety, such as clutching the steering wheel tightly or avoiding certain roads, could indicate declining confidence.
- Physical Challenges: Difficulty turning the head, using foot pedals, or seeing clearly at night can all impede safe driving.
- Concerns from Others: If family, friends, or healthcare professionals have voiced concerns, it’s essential to pay attention to these observations.
Who Should Have the Conversation?
Deciding who should initiate this conversation depends on the relationship, trust, and approachability of the person. Ideally, the person should be:
- Close Family Members: Someone with a trusting relationship, such as a spouse, adult child, or sibling, is often best suited for this discussion.
- Healthcare Professionals: GPs or occupational therapists can provide an objective, medical perspective and may be more persuasive if the driver is resistant.
- Trusted Friends: If family is not available, a close friend may be able to gently discuss the issue without being perceived as confrontational.
- Driving Instructors or Assessors: For an unbiased evaluation, consider a driving assessment with a licensed instructor or specialist in senior driver evaluations.
Approaching the Topic Sensitively
When having the conversation, it’s important to remain compassionate and respectful. Here are some tips:
- Choose the Right Time and Place: Make sure the environment is private, comfortable, and free from distractions.
- Use “I” Statements: Focus on your feelings and observations rather than making accusations. For example, “I noticed you seem more anxious while driving lately.”
- Focus on Safety, Not Ability: Emphasize that the conversation is about safety for everyone, not criticism of their driving skills.
- Offer Alternatives: Suggest options like driving less at night, taking a refresher course, or using public transportation.
- Be Patient: Understand that this can be a difficult conversation, and allow the person time to process your concerns.
What If They Refuse to Stop Driving?
If the driver is unwilling to stop, you may need to:
- Involve a Professional: Consider arranging a formal driving assessment with a specialist.
- Consult the DVLA: In the UK, the Driver and Vehicle Licensing Agency (DVLA) can be notified if someone poses a risk on the road due to health concerns.
- Encourage Regular Health Checks: Conditions affecting vision, hearing, or reaction times should be closely monitored by healthcare professionals.
Recognizing when a loved one is no longer safe to drive is challenging but necessary. By approaching the topic with empathy and offering support, you can ensure their safety and the safety of others on the road.
Additional resources :
Age UK – Worried about someone’s driving – Link to this article https://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/travel-hobbies/driving/worried-about-someones-driving
Older Drivers – The Law in the UK Link to this article https://olderdrivers.org.uk/the-law/
